68: What Are You Taking from ‘Insecure’?
After 5 seasons of beautiful, Black excellence, dazzling visuals, a soundtrack that just won’t quit, and laughs to last forever, our beloved comedy series has ended. In this spoiler-laden episode, Nic and Lala chat about their biggest takeaways and lessons learned from watching Issa Rae’s HBO series.
67: How Do You Cope With Climate Grief?
In this last episode of 2021, Nic and Lala reflect on the last six months of extreme weather and natural disasters in so-called BC, and the feelings of grief, overwhelm, and impending doom that has come with them. They explore what it means to cope under these conditions, and how to keep ahold of both the precariousness and preciousness of life.
66: What’s been the biggest teaching of your life?
Simple words spoken to us in childhood can create lasting imprints on how we take up space, and the lessons of unlikely teachers can drastically alter the path of every relationship we have. In this episode, Nic and Lala share some of the most impactful teachings and teachers in their life.
65: What Do You Wish For Yourself?
In this episode, Nic and Lala discuss their respective wishes for acceptance and peace, what makes these states elusive, and the paradox of living inside and outside of what we have and what we long for at the same damn time.
64: How Do You Decolonize?
In this episode, Nic and Lala share what it has meant to them and how they engage and plan to sustain decolonization as a lifelong committed practice.
63: What Do You Keep Hidden?
What do you keep hidden? What secrets, desires or parts of yourself would you prefer to tuck away into the crevices of shame? In this episode, Nic and Lala tap into their vulnerability and speak on the areas of their life that, when brought into the light, can be examined, understood and transformed.
62: How Do You Like To Be Loved?
Whether we care to admit it or not, most of us resonate with a deep desire to be loved, accepted and cherished. But in practice, much can get in the way of receiving the love we so deserve. In this episode, Nic and Lala explore what it means to be loved in all ways, and from all directions.
61: Are You Afraid To Fight With Your Friends?
What do we risk when we enter conflicts in our friendships? And what do we risk when we avoid them? In this episode, Nic and Lala explore fear and vulnerability by discussing trust, conflict, and hurt in their own friendship.
60: Vibe Right
Personal healing and collective liberation work is taxing, and in the midst of this labour, our ability to take a break and feel some respite can become a luxury. So what can we use to keep us afloat? In this episode, Nic and Lala talk about what cultivating sacred presence, striking balance, and showing up in our own lives—for ourselves—can afford us.
59: All My Friends Are Kings
As the world celebrates Pride month, Nic and Lala trace the evolution of Pride from a radical liberation movement to what often feels like a depoliticized corporate party, and call for Two-Spirit, queer and trans BIPOC to regain our rightful place as leaders of Pride movements.
58: Where Do We Go From Here?
In this episode, Nic and Lala reflect and mourn the ongoing genocide of Indigenous peoples, grieving the enormous loss of life following the recovery of 215 childrens’ bodies in Kamloops, and offer actionable ways that all settlers can work towards accountability for our complicity.
57: They All Yell Holla
If all our faves are problematic, can they still be our faves? In this episode, Nic and Lala discuss the ethics of loving problematic art, humanizing artists, and the responsibilities of the audience.
56: I Was Here
Our impact on the world around us can often feel intangible. While we know our lives are more than our labour or careers, the notion of legacy often gets boiled down to fame, popularity or being “known” for something--but what else is possible? In this episode, Nic and Lala offer their ideas on relationships and values as forms of legacy, and how the small ripples of our actions can cause massive waves of care for generations to come.
55: Boss/B*tch
When occupying positions of authority, women and non-binary folks of colour are often said to experience imposter syndrome. But when our qualifications, skills, and expertise are constantly questioned, is it really that simple? In this episode, Lala and Nic use an anti-oppressive framework to discuss the contradictions of claiming authority and ceding power when we have so little to begin with.
54: So Much Hurt
In this episode, Nic shares some of her initial learnings on transformative justice, what it offers our movements, and how it has begun to resonate, challenge, and spark new reflections on addressing harm, achieving accountability, and holding onto our humanity.
53: Your Ideal Woman
What does it look like, sound like, feel like to see the world through the eyes of your oppressors? When you see even yourself through their eyes? in this episode, Nic and Lala discuss what it means to look across rather than “up”, how internalized misogyny leaves us lonely, and more.
52: Best Friend
Friendship is a gift, offering us real opportunities to practice love, care, and accountability. But often, real friends are hard to come by, our ideas about friendship may not match reality. Seasons change, and so do we. In this episode, Nic and Lala celebrate the joy and power of one of the most sacred forms of relationship.
51: Same Ol' Mistakes
If guilt lets us know when we’ve done something wrong, why is it often referred to as a wasted emotion? Does guilt immobilize us or move us to take action? In this episode, Nic and Lala discuss the contradictions of guilt, the ways it intersects with ego and with ableism, and how to move from guilt to responsibility.
50: Under Pressure
Birthdays, holidays, anniversaries. While we may feel pressured to create picture-perfect celebrations for these supposedly sunny days, many of us find ourselves triggered, wrapped in grief, and wanting to hide. In this episode, Nic and Lala discuss trauma coinciding with celebration, and how to take care of ourselves on these complex occasions.
49: Watch The Moon
Do you know what your intuition looks, sounds, tastes, feels like? In this episode, Nic and Lala discuss healing our intuition as BIPOC in a white supremacist society, distinguishing between intuition and anxiety, and the blessings of learning to listen and connect.